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In your effort to
appreciate all that is in your life, include yourself. Spoil yourself with gifts of time -- time to know yourself better and time to love and appreciate those who are a part of your life. Caroline Myss |
Never Assume People Know What You Want
You may believe that your family knows your
wishes about your funeral arrangements, but without
specific instructions, there frequently is misunderstanding, particularly during
the emotional period which will follow your loss.
Commit your preferences about your funeral arrangements to
paper.
Remember it's about you, but its for them.
Don't be too hasty to eliminate a funeral or memorial service from your choice of arrangements:
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You may consider a service "too expensive" or "not important" to you. You may believe it is extravagant or immodest to request a remembrance but remember a funeral or memorial service is only about you -- it is for the people you love.
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The service is way for a family to mark a defining and transitional moment in its history, and to find continuity and renewed purpose.
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It is an opportunity for friends who grieve your loss to find comfort by sharing their respect and remembrances.
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It is the chance everyone needs to say goodbye.
Give people who
love you a choice.
One approach may be to state in your preferences that a funeral or memorial service is "not important" to you, but you do not object to one if others wish to arrange it -- thereby keeping everyone's options open.
